Interview For “Never Liked It Anyway’s” Woman Crush Wednesday

I was interviewed for Never Liked It Anyway‘s Woman Crush Wednesday. Check out the best and worst gifts I ever got, my go-to pick-me-up, and my advice for all things love, sex, and dating :):

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This week’s Woman Crush Wednesday is the one and only Megan Bruneau – aka the incredible talent behind One Shrink’s Perspective. Megan is so real, raw and honest that you notice it through her writing, and within the first five seconds of meeting. We met recently at a panel hosted by Forbes for women, and within an instant I was struck by her smarts, sass and direct manner. It’s an inspiration and naturally brings out a level of conversation that’s all too rare these days. Megan is an expert in all things love, breakups and moving on; and approaches it all with refreshing candor and energy. Here’s what she had to say about all things love, sex and dating.

What’s the best gift you ever got?

An ex gave me a necklace that means “Follow your dreams,” even though he knew me “following my dreams” likely meant we weren’t going to stay together. It was heartbreaking and deeply motivating at the same time. Since then, I moved to New York to follow my dreams, and we broke up. I wore it every day for two years. I’ve since swapped it out for a different piece of jewelry with different meaning, but it still sits on my desk and reminds me why I’m here every day (READ MORE).

Millennial Entrepreneurs: Here’s How To Embrace Discomfort And Follow Your Dreams (FORBES)

My dad was a criminal lawyer for 43 years. He spent Monday through Friday between court and the office, escaping every Friday in summer to the lake, and every Friday in winter to the mountain. This highly privileged life (by most accounts) is traditionally appealing, but I feel panicked at the thought of replicating it.

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The bust-your-ass-for-five, enjoy-life-for-two routine served my dad for those 43 years, as a similar version may have served your parents. Still heavily influenced by their parents’ trauma from the Great Depression and WWII, our parents sought the safety and security that accompanies a respectable profession such as law (READ MORE).

Megan on ‘The Science Of Success’ Podcast With Matt Bodnar: Uncover the Root of Your Pain, How to Smash Perfectionism, Love Yourself, and Live a Richer Life

In this episode we discuss why the “happiness” movement has done us a disservice and sometimes makes things worse, how perfectionism creates an illusion of control and distorts your reality, how to become aware of the critical inner voice at the root of your pain and unhealthy habits, the incredible power of self compassion, and much more with Megan Bruneau.

Megan Bruneau is a psychotherapist, wellness coach, writer, podcast host and creator of oneshrinksperspective.com After years of perfectionism-fueled depression, anxiety, and eating disorders, she discovered how to like herself, take risks, and find success without beating herself up to get there.

  • Why Megan advocates a holistic approach to mental health
  • Why the “happiness” movement has done us a disservice and sometimes makes things worse
  • How to become aware of the critical inner voice at the roof of your pain and unhealthy habits
  • What your “secondary emotions” are and why its so important to pay close attention to them
  • How you internalize self judgement from your childhood experiences
  • You can have expectations about mood not just performance and that can create suffering
  • The importance of giving yourself permission to feel feelings even when they are uncomfortable
  • What your physiological symptoms look like when you experience a fight or flight response
  • How to build tolerance and grow your “emotional muscle”
  • The tools you can use (with a concrete example) to stop a downward spiral of anxiety
  • Things you might do that actually make a negative emotional response worse
  • The importance of making space for difficult feelings ( through mindfulness )
  • How to have deep self compassion and treat yourself with kindness
  • What exactly to say to yourself when you’re dealing with difficult emotions
  • Why you should treat yourself like a dear friend who is suffering
  • How the “self esteem” movement screwed you up and created many of your emotional challenges
  • What happens when your self worth is dependent on being better than other people
  • How Megan defines perfectionism (and why you might be a perfectionist without even realizing it)
  • The critical importance of self compassion and how you can practice it
  • The importance of understanding the concept of “common humanity”
  • We define mindfulness and its core components, and discuss how to practice it
  • Why painful feelings don’t make you broken, but are a natural part of the human experience
  • The huge downsides of having your self worth tied to your achievements
  • Why your fear of difficult and uncomfortable emotions is the roof of your suffering
  • The exact internal dialogue you should use if you constantly put too much pressure on yourself
  • The massive danger of “globalizing” negative experiences
  • Why giving up high expectations actually enhances your performance
  • Why you should change for your focus from being productive to focusing on what’s meaningful
  • How you can “become friends” with difficult emotions
  • And MUCH more!

If you are frustrated, suffering, or struggling with uncomfortable emotions, listen to this episode!

Interview With The Native Society On Megan’s Most Challenging Moment, Motto, And More

 The Native Society interviewed me on my most challenging moment, biggest success, role model, and more! Follow the link below to read the full interview!

What do you do best?

Find the positive in a difficult or unwanted situation. Or, as some might call it, “rationalize” (haha). I read Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl when I was 22, and it changed my life. A quote that really stuck with me was: “Even the most negative aspects of human existence such as guilt, suffering, and death can be viewed positively, given the right attitude.” This is not to say that we shouldn’t have compassion for ourselves during challenging times, but trusting that we’ll find meaning in that suffering is essential to resilience. I live by the philosophy that life is our teacher and there’s a lesson in every disappointment and challenge.

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5 Challenges of Being A Woman Following Her Career Dreams (Forbes)

As a woman who’s deeply fulfilled by your career, your days are peppered with inspiration and gratitude. But there are times when your meaningful path is punctuated by pain. Here are five challenges that come along with being a woman who chooses to follow her career dreams:

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You will feel judged.

When you prioritize work. When you’re assertive. When you travel alone. When you give your opinion.

Some people will attribute your success to your sexuality. Some people will accuse you of “never being satisfied.” You’ll try to explain to them it’s not the outcome that drives you, but the process . They’ll raise their eyebrows anyway. You’ll realize you can’t please everyone, which will be both defeating and liberating. You’ll give less f*cks what people think, which will both empower and concern you (READ MORE).